Anyone can be a bystander. As a bystander, it is up to us to intervene if we notice someone is in danger. When we intervene, we make it clear that certain behaviours are not okay.
In our community, if we consistently reinforce these messages, we can change what is considered acceptable and help to stop this problematic behaviour.
What does it mean to be an active bystander?
By being an active bystander, it means that you are aware of inappropriate behaviours and choosing to address them. If you are not comfortable with confronting it directly, ask for help from a friend or from someone in a position of authority.
What are some ways to safely help someone who may be experiencing abuse?
When it comes to intervening safely, remember the four D’s:
- Direct – Address negative behaviours by telling a person to stop or checking in with the victim. If possible, do this in a group. Remain calm, polite and explain why you are offended. Stick to the facts without exaggeration.
- Distract – Interrupt by engaging the person who is engaging in the act, allowing the person receiving the inappropriate behaviour to leave or giving someone else the chance to intervene. Alternatively, create an excuse to remove the person from the situation, such as pretending you need to speak with them or any other reason to get them to safety.
- Delegate – If you do not feel comfortable speaking out, or it is not safe to do so, get someone else to step in.
- Delay – If the situation is too dangerous to speak or take action, walk away. Wait for the situation to pass and ask the person receiving the inappropriate behaviour if they are okay. You can also report it when it is safe to do so. It is never too late to act.
Source: University of Cambridge. Breaking the silence: Preventing harassment and sexual misconduct.
